Ed Hungness: Dad heads for the couch

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June 15, 2008

BY ED HUNGNESS The Record Eagle Sun Jun 15, 2008, 10:54 AM EDT

Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there. Today is the one special day of the year that honors all men who have raised children.

Let's face it, kids are a necessary requirement to enter this fraternity. One day a year does seem kind of skimpy and, personally, I think instead of having Father's Day we should have Father's Week.

I suppose you figured out that I'm a dad myself and am a little self-serving in my opinion.

On Father's Day, dads can expect to receive greeting cards telling them how much they are appreciated. They can usually look forward to a gift of new socks, a tie or maybe a shirt. If they are really lucky, they might get to sleep in on their special day and wake up to the smell of bacon cooking and coffee brewing for a special home-cooked breakfast made with the kids' help.

I can remember Father's Day celebrations when I was young. At school, I would make Dad a special gift as a project in our industrial arts class. As I recall, this was usually an ashtray and he always acted thrilled to receive it. He always congratulated me on my ashtray design skills. He was sure that I would grow up to be a famous engineer or inventor.

My sister would often make Dad a potholder in home economics class and present it to him with a handcrafted greeting card. He gave her a big hug and told her that she would make someone a great wife someday.

It's been years since I've been in a school and I wonder if they still offer those classes to kids. If they do, hopefully they aren't still making ashtrays and potholders.

Our special Father's Day dinner was usually served at noon. As far back as I can recall, it frequently was a pork roast, which became a traditional meal in our family. We all liked Mom's pork roast and it was always prepared along with green beans, oven-browned potatoes, carrots, onions and plenty of gravy. Homemade pie and ice cream usually followed dinner, along with coffee for the grown-ups.

After we had all eaten our fill, Dad would retire to the living room couch. If you asked him if he was sleeping, he would say that he was "just resting his eyes." In the meantime, Mom and us kids cleaned up the kitchen while Dad rested. After all it was "Dad's day."

The day was all too short on recognition of such a great guy. Like most dads, he worked hard all week providing for his family. On weekends, he was usually doing yard work or fixing something that needed repair. If he was lucky, he got two weeks of vacation a year and usually spent it on a fishing trip or on a family vacation. He didn't really get much time to have fun. At the end of his day he was tired out and he knew that, in the morning, he would start it all over again.

Dads are special people and we should show our love and respect for them on this, their special day.

Ed Hungness and his wife owned their cottage on Fife Lake for six years before moving there after his retirement in 2005. His writing draws from life experiences and a love for the outdoors and northern Michigan. He can be reached at edhungness@yahoo.com or care of the Record-Eagle.

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